It has often been said that what we don’t know can’t hurt us, as if our inability to see something automatically makes us immune from its effects. When it comes to wounding – emotional, psychological, or spiritual – what we don’t know and can’t see hurts us deeply. In fact, some of the reasons these wounds perpetuate in our life is directly because we are unable to see and/or process our wounds. This is particularly true when we examine our wounds of religion. When we look closely, we may discover that the effects of these wounds are actually influencing our relationships in many ways that we don’t recognize.
This effect is termed having a “blind spot.” Much like the experience of driving down the highway, we can see the cars directly in front of us, directly behind us, but most cars have a blind spot that is unable to be seen with their mirrors. In essence, we are unable to see the car that may be closest to us simply because of our perception from where we are sitting. This is an excellent analogy for how blind spots work in our lives as well. We often miss being able to see those issues or problems that are closest to us because of our perception.
Having a blind spot does not make us unintelligent, unteachable, or difficult. Actually, it is part of what makes us human. When we are surrounded in a “hurt-tornado” it can be almost impossible to see everything clearly and with enough attention to make positive changes. In fact, there are some things that we will never be able to see without:
Taking a pointed look at the issue in a new way (such as turning our head directly to look over our shoulder when driving),
Allowing time and space to give a new advantage point (such as accelerating or decelerating so the vehicle is no longer directly next to us), or
Obtaining assistance from someone else (having a passenger inform us of someone in our blind spot).
I am reminded of a time in my own life when I held on to certain beliefs, religious convictions, and even “religious” traditions and behaviors. Fortunately, I was raised in a family and denomination that encouraged constant questioning and inquiry. So, even as I held onto my beliefs, I began to take a new look at them, allowed my self time and space to examine them, and sought wise counsel to help me wrestle with, discern, and SEE the Sacred’s love in new and profound ways!
As a pastologist (trained psychologist and ordained minister), I am here to help you see beyond the blind spots and navigate your life’s journey in a safe, calm, and insightful manner. Often, it is not easy to see what is right in front of us; but, it is important to OPEN our eyes so that we might see and ultimately heal wounds that impact our lives and relationships.
Working with me one-on-one, through an online class, or by attending one of my workshops is a great way to get started or progress on your journey to healing. I can help you to uncover these wounds and see things from a perspective you may have never considered and in so doing, open the door for greater connectedness with your sacred source and new possibilities in your life.
I wish you well on your journey and encourage you to join the movement to
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